To Niche Or Not To Niche



I'm so excited to come to you guys again! I know some of you are wondering what happened and where I've been. Last post, I took a poll to see what it was that you, my readers liked the most but wait let me reverse and back up...

I started blogging back in 2008 before the blogosphere became crowded. Originally this was just a way for me to express myself and consistently work on my passion for writing. Soon I figured out that I didn't want this to just be a hobby and toyed around with the idea of becoming a professional writer. I had always excelled at writing in school and did well. However at the time entrepreneurship wasn't even on my radar being 2 years out of college, all I knew (or what I thought) was that I was supposed to be working a nice corporate job be miserable and do that until I retired.

Well, almost 10 years later and whole different mind set I have started my own freelance writing service Nicole Alicia Writes and have also decided to self-publish a novella as well as a novel this year (my pen name is Daysha Devine).

Earlier this year, I took a mini e-course that was explaining about how to turn blogging into a business. I wanted to go back to basics and see if it was possibility I could start to make money from mine. I had always blogged about several different topics, not because I didn't know what a niche' was it was because I just refused to choose one subject. I gave it some serious thought as to what niche I could pick. I have went back and forth and wrecked my brain. I just can't.

I may do a rebrand later on this year and this niche may come to me.For now though, Nicole Alicia Online will remain basically the same.

Just wanted to update you guys on where I was at. I appreciate the support of those who have been rocking with me from the beginning and those who may have just discovered me recently. 

P.S. I continue to take pitches for reviews and such, but just know that I may not be able to do them right away like last time.

Much love,

Let's Try This Again...Take My Reader Poll! (It Actually Works Now)


Hi Ladies and Gents!

I'm coming to you today, here in the all the snow in Kansas City, Missouri. It's not a ton, but it's something to look at.

Anyways, last week I asked for your help...

Apparently you tried to respond to my "help a sista out" campaign, but the poll didn't work. My bad, how embarrassing!
 (Okay, okay poor management on my behalf. I forgot to test it before I posted it)

Long story short, shout out to my friend Joslyn who was kind enough to let me know.

So let's try this again with a bit of incentive. The first 5 people to take the survey will win a FREE grab bag from yours truly!
 (Disclaimer: I'm not Oprah, so so don't expect a car or anything huge. This will be a simple token of my thanks! When you complete survey send an email to and include your shipping address.)

*****To take survey click here!******

Again my apologies if you tried this last week and it didn't work. 
Readers as always, I thank you for your continued support, feedback and encouragement!

Nicole Alicia Needs You!


Happy Hump Day! 

I need your help! I really want to make sure that you as my readers are getting the most from 

I know I've had several different looks over the years and typically write about several different topics. However, I am looking to maybe take a different direction, but don't want to do anything without my you! 

Maybe you've just recently discovered my blog or you've been with me from the beginning, either way I want to continue improving each year for you! 

So, if you could take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to answer the following 5 questions, I'd really appreciate it! Your input means so much to me and I thank you in advance!

Music Monday: AccentedSounds


Growing up in the 80's, Saturday morning was cleaning day in our home. I often woke to my Dad playing albums on the stereo in our living room. Zapp Band, Earth, Wind, & Fire and Art of Noise filled our apartment. I loved hearing the horns on one song in particular, EWF "Can't Hide Love". It's still one of my fav's today.

We live in such a digital world today! Live instrumentation is what I truly love at heart being a former musician myself. But we rarely hear live instruments unless in concert backing up an artist or as sample of an older song on one our favorite hip-hop records.

But that's the beauty of art, we are free to create how we see fit! Contrary to what some may think, there are some out there creating something different from the norm. 

He goes by the name AccentedSounds on his SoundCloud page. An young artist I discovered out of Virginia recently that really creates and "out-the-box" type of sound. 

Cordell Riddick is the guy behind AccentedSounds and he most definitely is as described on his page. A musician and a talented one, if I may say so myself. He does it all, producing, playing the saxophonist, pianist, percussionist and guitarist. Who does that anymore these days?

He hasn't created an entire project as of yet, but needs to soon because it would be lovely music to ride to or listen to vibe out or chill. I mean the 3 minute tracks alone aren't enough.

He's speaking through his music without even talking though, which I love. Tracks like "Jonny's Mind", "Chill Dayz Intro", a soft saxophone melody mixed with a nice mellow beat makes for an interesting blend. The composure of the songs are put together well also. You can hear the first verse, chorus, etc. on most songs but not all which makes it fun to listen to, not rudimentary.

Saxa Blanca, is another smooth Jazz tune that was one of my favorite out of the tracks posted.

It's refreshing to hear something different from the ordinary. You can tell he's got a creative mind and that translates into his music.

So if you're into a little Neo-Soul, Jazz and Hip-Hop be sure to take a listen!

5 Ways To Stop Making Excuses & Get Stuff Done


The start of a new year always makes me think about what I could be doing better. I used to be a habitual procrastinator in all areas of life. I'm talking small things like errands and doing laundry...well laundry I'm still working on not procrastinating against :) The struggle is so real y'all! Big things too just simply use to scare me into procrastinating. Then came the questions like, how can I do this or that and can I really do that? How?

As a mother, wife and entrepreneur it become increasingly difficult to stay on track. Being tired, stressed working a 8 to 5, plus trying to run a career on the side wears on you. You can start becoming discouraged and eventually you start to loose motivation along the way (Read my previous post about motivation). The more added to my plate the more I said, "I don't have time to do this". Sound familiar ladies? Although time was my biggest struggle, I started to wonder why.

But what I've discovered is you have to make time. There is no magical formula! Really it's simple as prioritizing what's important. It's hard, it takes serious practice! Stick with it though, don't give up.

I hear a lot of women saying, it's so and so's fault that I never did this or that. Which most of the time is a false statement. If you have a true desire to do something, I believe there's a way. A desire to follow your dreams, find or create that dream job you've always wanted, go back to school and the list goes on and on, you get the point.

Fact is, with God and a bit of ambition we can do anything! With the help of the Internet now days and sites like YouTube you can literally learn how or where to go to learn just about anything.

So let's stop making excuses and make 2016 the year of "Just Do IT"! 
Go for it! Don't be scurred! Remember this isn't a dress rehearsal ladies, we only get one shot, alright? Let get it!

1. Stop The Blaming 
Acceptance is often as hard as forgiving. Forgive yourself and forgive that other person you feel might be responsible! Accept the fact that you may have failed or missed a chance. It may have to be daily, even hourly if you have to. But whatever it is, don't get stuck! Move on!

2. Use A Planner 
The only way I've found that really stops procrastination is using a calendar or planner of some sort. I have to tell myself that I need to write everyday as a priority to stay on track. Keeping a planner and a calendar really helps! I use a combination of the Passion Planner and Google Calendar. I look at my paper planner consistently each day and use Google Calendar for reminders. I can't seem to choose to be strictly traditional or strictly digital. I guess it's just whatever you prefer :)

3. Research
If there's something that you want to do but you're stuck because you just know it's going to cost a lot of money, research! There's always more than one way to skin a cat. I've heard some remarkable stories about how people have accomplished things and overcame despite what they thought they knew. Get on that Internet and find out girl! It doesn't hurt to know. And as the Notorious B.I.G once said, "If you don't know, now ya know" LOL.

4. Go Deep
Is there something that you're really, I mean really scared of? Is there a deeper reason why you haven't accomplished that one thing or why you can't seem to make time? Soul searching is necessary sometimes in order for change to come about. You don't have to tell anyone, grab a journal, a notebook or your phone and just jot down some thoughts. You may discover there's a deeper reason that's stopping you from accomplishing a certain goal.

5. Look To The Future
You know that saying, "Don't put off, what you can do today"? Sometime we forget that time is not indispensable. We're getting older by the minute! We get wrapped up in the "now" a lot, it's easy to do trust me, I do it alot. But I had to stop and think about the legacy I wanted to leave for my children. I want to be able to have stories to tell my grandkids about the adventures and triumphs they're grandmother has had.

Bottom line is, as if you haven't got it yet... sometimes it takes a big fight or a push to get what you want or get where you want to be. 

What are ways you #GetStuffDone?

Motivation Monday: 8 Tips To Staying Motivated Throughout The Year


It's the first week of a brand new year! Oh the endless possibilities!

Traditionally, some of us have taken on a "new year's resolution" that soon after this week or even this month, will be forgotten and tossed aside for our daily to-do's, work, kids and all the other miscellaneous items that life brings.

I'm not sure about you, but for me I've found though that resolutions don't work. Goal setting and plans do, however. But even though you make these certain plans, how are you supposed to stick to them? How can we stay motivated enough to keep plugging away and not give up easily? 

As women, we juggle so much on a daily. We get worn down, sidetracked and the motivation to pursue our goals goes out the window. We're human and things happen, what's important is to notice when you're slacking and be able to pick it back up and move ahead!

How do I stay motivated you may ask? There's no definite answer. Here are a few things that have worked for me, but really have to find out what works best for you personally.

Here are some things I do to try keep my momentum going and stay motivated. Sure, I fall off all the time, but remember it's okay to fall off once in awhile. Let's just not stay there! So here we go...

8 Tips To Stay Motivated Throughout The Year:

1. Make a list of a few places that really get your juices flowing mentally
There is one area I go to here in Kansas City that always gets me motivated. Westport area and Downtown Kansas City really does it for me. 

2. Prayer
I think what we can forget sometimes is that we aren't ever in this alone. Many times we try to do it all ourselves and then wonder why we're so tired and so forth. Take it to the lord in prayer, I promise you he will help you ease the load. 

3. What's Your Core Reason?
Money is fine, but if that's all that motivates you, you might be in a rude awakening down the road. When you find a deeper reason you'll be more likely to stay on the path. For me my son and family are major motivators. Have you asked yourself what really motivates you ?

4. Make a list
Try listing out the things that keep you motivated and keep you going. Post somewhere you will see it daily. Tape it to your bathroom mirror, paste it over your kitchen sink, on your car dash, if you're a digital girl save 'em on your phone. Maybe you need to have them in multiple places whatever you get the idea.

5. Music
Playlist are huge helpers for me. I love music. I have started a vinyl collection and have a record player. I love to sit and listen to music. Music can help you get through a difficult day, it can help you relax and refocus as well. It's a major destresser for me.Try making a playlist of songs that motivate you to do whatever it is you're trying to do.

6. Make Sure You Are Rewarding Yourself
We need to recognize when we're doing good. Often times we just keep going and going until we burn out. Somewhere in between we need to stop and reward ourselves daily I believe! Whether it's a daily carmel macchiato from "buckies" or reading a chapter from that novel you've been trying to finish for the last 6 months. My favorite is a hot shower at the end of a long day!

7. Connect With Others (No not on Social Media)
Psychology 101 tells us that human interaction is needed for a healthy lifestyle. I think that's what maybe wrong with the world nowadays and especially this new generation! People are so heavily reliable on technology. Let's stop and call up that friend you may not have seen for awhile and set up a lunch date or go to happy hour and just catch up. It's not only rewarding to connect with others but just sharing ideas with other in person can help.

8. Goals, revisit them often!
Remember when you made those goals last year? Where are they? Did you accomplish them? If not why? Figure out what you need to do today in order to keep on track for 2016. Keep that list handy like #4, post them somewhere you can look at it daily. 

Recognize what works well for you and what doesn't. Tweek it along the way as necessary!

Have you figured out how to stay motivated for 2016?Comment below!


Happy New Year's!

I don't know about you, but 2015 really went quickly. There were many exciting events, I experienced like being published and writing for others. Some saddening, disappointing events one in particular that pushed me into being able to pursue my passion for writing full-time (which I had been praying I'd be able to do). Which I was totally excited and am excited about.

I love New Year's! The holiday is a time for reflection but it's also a time to celebrate your accomplishments and bask in the possibilities of what's to come.

All in all, this past year has been quite interesting. Looking back on this year, at 31 years old I am learning that life is never the same all the time. Which for me is what makes it interesting.

This year not only have I managed to finally finish my manuscript for my first novel (yay), but I have written posts for several different websites building up a pretty nice portfolio. Also, I had my first print article published.

For 2016, I have an abundance of plans of which I am super excited about. However, I know that most of the time while I make my own plans, God comes along and says, "Oh really" and changes them for the better. I am most excited also to see what God has in store for me in 2016. 

Being able to pursue my writing career full-time, I am focused on getting my first fiction novel published and into the hands of my readers. On, I totally am going to be giving my blog readers more consistency and focusing on certain topics y'all want to hear and know about.

This year I am looking forward to connecting with more of my readers and other writers as well. Also strengthening relationships with connections that I've had since the beginning of my blogging career back in 2008, like Ms. Dre over at So She Writes and Paige Love Rose and making other connections.

I encourage you, if you have not yet to sign up for my mailing list to receive my monthly newsletter so you can stay up to date, get info on different freebies and downloads and also receive different motivational tips.

I pray that 2016 is a blessed one!

What goals are you aiming for this year?

'Chi-Raq': A Review For The "Unconscious"


Director Spike Lee is known for his interesting and often controversial films. Some of his earlier works are in my "favorite movie" category. Movies such as 'School Daze', 'Do The Right Thing', 'He Got Game' and  who can forget 'Malcom X'. So I guess you can say I'm a fan of some of his work.

I had seen the previews for 'Chi-Raq' and from the previews still wasn't sure what to think exactly this was about. 

In recent years, I remember hearing about the violence and children's lives who have been taken from stray bullets in the Chicago, IL. In Kansas City, we have recently had at least a dozen children shot and killed in the last year. Horrible! Any way you spin this issue, it's sad and sick, anytime a mother has to bury their own child.

I understand where the offense comes from. People take pride in where their from, whether from NYC or podunk town, USA. People are a part of their city and the city or town they live in is a part of them, I get that. 

Kansas City, Missouri is often referred to as "Killa City" due to our homicide rate in the early 2000's and I hate that term. I can see why Chicagoans are offended by the nickname "Chi-Raq" and by the movie. To associate your city with such a negative connotation, especially to do with killing and war zones isn't anything to be proud of. It should be something to be ashamed of.

I saw the word, 'satire' attached to 'Chi-Raq' before I went to see the film last night. Familiar with what exactly a 'satirical' film is, I recalled briefly seeing the film 'Bamboozled' (another Spike Lee film) back in 2000 that was highly controversial too.

  1. the use of humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people's stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.
    • a play, novel, film, or other work that uses satire.
      plural noun: satires
      "a stinging satire on American politics"
    • a genre of literature characterized by the use of satire.

I've seen some pretty nasty, purely ignorant comments on the reviews written about this movie. I'm not sure people just don't know or don't care what the many messages are in this film, or are just fully ready to rip it to shreds.

If taken literally, you're going to miss a few of the points being made in this film. The movie is more than just a satirical film, based off of the Greek play 'Lysistrata' by Aristophanes. Instead, what if it was looked at as a piece of art that makes you think and sparks conversation?

This is not just a film about violence in Chicago, that tries to use abstinence as a solution is to stop the violence.

Yes, once you get around all of the profanity and sex, I believe this movie is a major "think piece" and will create conversation for years to come like many of Spike Lee's other films.

One of the many messages I picked up on in the film was that violence is a vicious cycle in the black community. So many young women are having to raise young black boys on their own with no help from fathers or another solid male role model to guide them. Many young black males are out here lost and left to fend for themselves. 

The movie begins with a scene at a club where rapper/gang member Chi-Raq (Nick Cannon) is about to perform. We see two text bubbles between people who are unknown. Soon after his performance begins a shooting occurs and the two texters are revealed, now shot dead on the floor. We now are hit with the tension of the story, now aware of a gang rivalry between the Spartans and the Trojans. A real story of these days, beefs being handled over text message.

A great deal of the movie is delivered in rhyme and spoken word, well played.

Samuel L. Jackson, the narrator of the movie as ort of ghetto philosopher.

Nick Cannon was acted his part as rapper/gang leader 'Chi-Raq'. Just edgy and smooth enough, but not over acted. He played his part well. Those sex scenes may have gotten Mr. Cannon in a bit of trouble I think, but I digress.

Lysistrata (Teyonah Parris), a familiar face from the movie 'Dear White People', sets out to end violence in the community by staging a sex strike, "No Peace, No P*ssy". In the light of satirical films, the revolt is largely staged at the National Guard Armory. What a statement it makes that this is where listees go to train for battle or for war. 

To take over the Armory, Lysistrata ties up an old white general, who strips down to his confederate underwear, mounted on an old cannon called 'Whistling Dick' and rips the confederate flag off the wall. Did you catch that one?

With an all-star cast along with Nick, Samuel L. and Teyonah Parris was Dave Chappelle, Wesley Snipes, Roger Guenveur Smith, La La Anthony, Felicia Pearson (Snoop from The Wire), Steve Harris (Diary of A Mad Black) and Angela Bassett. This movie did great with casting characters who really drove this powerful film.

In the end, Chi-Raq confesses to accidental murder of a young child and every gang member turns in their guns. 

This movie not only sheds light on the seriousness of the problems in Southside Chicago, and Chicago's murder rate that is well into the 400's this year; It also sheds light on the fact that this isn't a Chicago problem, it's a Baltimore problem, a Kansas City problem a Houston, Texas problem and a New York problem.

It should not be a film that offends people, but yet enlightens them about the ignorance that goes on in our communities, in the streets of not only Chicago and 'hoods elsewhere.

Bringing humor to an issue is no laughing matter, but rather a way to try to get the unconscious to wake up and see the error. More of a haha see how dumb you ignorant folk that are shooting up your own kind in the streets, while innocent people are bystanders and could get hit!

Some say Spike Lee is trying to exploit violence, just to make money. Hmmm, ok I think money is far from his objective as film director. If that were the case he wouldn't have made a movie that was so controversial, he would have made a movie that was beautiful and flowery, everyone wanted to see. 

Mr. Lee has been telling us for years in his movies to "Wake Up". But I see some of y'all are still very asleep!

'The Wiz' Live Delivers More Than Expected


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(Disclaimer: This is a written review from someone who is a true fan of the original motion picture The Wiz from 1978.)

Where do I start?
I admit I was very skeptical when I saw that they were doing a live production casting stars to play the parts of some legendary stars who played the original parts. Very big shoes to fill playing characters that Michael Jackson, Dianna Ross, Nipsy Russel, Ted Ross and Richard Pryor killed in the motion picture. Also don't know if many know that Quincy Jones did the music production But I soon realized it was a tad different and more an adaptation of the Broadway production. 

I tried to go into this honestly with high expectations and I believe those were met partially. Nothing will ever top the original motion picture in my mind though. Rest in Peace to all the cast Michael Jackson (Scarecrow), Lena Horne (Glenda The Good), Ted Ross (Cowardly Lion), Nipsy Russell (Tinman), Richard Pryor (The Wiz), Mabel King (Evilene), Thelma Carpenter(Miss One).

Last night, what I witnessed was a wonderful production of The Wiz. I really didn't like the new rendition of the characters outfits that I saw before hand, but it was awesome once I saw it on my TV screen. 

Musical Numbers
The musical numbers were a bit remixed from the original tunes, and there was even a new song written by Elijah Kelly that I enjoyed. The characters singing voices were on point all in all . 

Stephanie Mills who plays Aunt Em in this production was Dorothy in the original Broadway production in 1975. Dorothy's voice I was not a fan of for this role, but still thought that she did a great job. Glee star, Amber Riley sang her heart out as Addaperle and this was to be expected. Unexpected, wonderful singing performance by Uzo Aduba, playing the Good Witch was spectacular. Who knew crazy eyes could blow like that? I did! I knew she sang opera from her interview on The View. She looked beautiful in that costume as well.

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Favorite Characters
I'm not sure I can pick a favorite character for this production.If I had to though, I'd choose Elijah Kelly, he did his thing as the Scarecrow. The humor in his lines had me rollin'. "I'm collecting cents to buy some sense", ha classic! Did anyone catch those?

Singer/Producer Ne-Yo, as the Tinman was also great with singing and dancing. But that horrible accent his character had him doing need to go.

The vibrant colors used for the munchkin costumes and Poppy girl costumes gave me life. I am pretty sure I am going to be a Poppy girl for Halloween next year. 

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Other Thoughts On The Wiz Live
I did find that talking Wiz head a bit creepy. Did anyone else think so? I was hoping I didn't have nightmares about it last night!

Love Queen Latifah and Mary J. Blige, but some of the lines I think it was a bit of a stretch. Convincible in the character they were portraying but a stretch. Obviously, they chose Mary for her voice, which is not excellent. Her part as Evilene though I felt was lacking a bit of wickedness. I kept wondering where the big toilet throne was? They just had her poof disappear instead of melt. The wicked witch always melts! 

Overall, the theatrical effects they had were great too.

Bravo to everyone who was in this. I could go on and on about this, but I won't.

I think on a 5-star rating system I'd give it 3 1/2 stars. 

Check out my live tweets from last night on my timeline @NicoleAlicia2 !

I wasn't even born when the original Broadway production of The Wiz was on stage in '75, nor was I here when the original movie came in theatres in 1978. However, it was this piece of history that my mother passed on to me at a very early age. That very first viewing of the movie when I was about 5 or 6 that has stuck with me forever. It is a story I fall in love with over and over.I'm not really a musical fan but this imprinted on my heart and soul. 

I'm not exactly what it is about the movie that I love. I've tried to pinpoint it down and still can't. Maybe it was Michael Jackson hitting those high notes on "You Can't Win", maybe it was Diana Ross singing "Home"? It will always be one of my all time favorite movies that I watch over and over.

My personal collection:Vinyl 12' record soundtrack, CD soundtrack and DVD motion picture!

Nicole Alicia's Movie Review of "Creed"


I was so excited for Thursday! 

Yes because of Thanksgiving, family and food, but also because of the movie "Creed" with Michael B. Jordan, hitting theatres that day!

As a boxing fan and fan of Michael B. Jordan, I was excited to see not only how ripped his body was (whoa, he is fine ain't he ladies), but also I was looking to see how realistic the movie was going to be to the real boxing fans.

 It was pretty darn close.

Not going to give any spoiler alerts, so here we go!

I went to see this movie at 9:15pm on Thanksgiving night at the Plaza Cinemark Theatres, which is a ways from my house because other theatres closer to my house were sold out.

The theatre was packed for this movie!

Michael B. Jordan, who I became a fan of early on as he played his short lived part on my favorite crime series ever, "The Wire". Playing the character of Wallace, a runner for the Barksdale crew in the projects who was later shot to death by his cohorts Bodie and Poot. Most recently in 2013 we saw him give another riveting performance in "Fruitvale Station" also directed by Ryan Coogler, playing Oscar Grant.

In "Creed", Jordan plays Adonis Johnson, son of famous boxer Apollo Creed. Adonis is a hungry boxer that is looking to find his own way, avoiding the shadows of his father that he never knew. He is taken in by his father's wife, played by Phylicia Rashad. She comes to take him from a juvenile facility even though he wasn't her biological child. 

After a series of events,he leaves his home in Hollywood and decides to journey to Philadelphia to train as a real fighter. He summons the help of his father's friend and ex-opponent Rocky Balboa aka the legendary Sylvester Stallone, although resistant to become his trainer.

He meets a love interest along the way, the beautiful Tessa Thompson who I love, love, love from the movie "Dear White People". Michael and Tessa seemed to have a cute little chemistry on screen.

It was also nice to see real Boxers like Andre Ward and Tony Bellew, in the flick as well.

Michael B. Jordan is becoming a well-known black actor in Hollywood. I am definitely looking forward to seeing more of him on the big screen! 

And by the looks of the way this one ended, maybe there's a sequel in the works?

Thoughts, Comments, Opinions?

10 Things I Am Most Thankful For



'Tis the season to give thanks! 
Although Thanksgiving holiday has past, I am thankful all year around, but this seems to be the season to give thanks especially. There are many things that I could share with you about my life and why I am thankful, but that would truly be a lengthy list! So, I thought I would share a few...

1. I am Thankful for life
There have been so many people that lost their lives, some violently, some in accidents this year that we knew or was a sibling of someone we knew. Some died before the age of 30 or 40 even. Life is not promised!

2. I am thankful for my relationship with God
He has never left my side and has always been there. It sounds very cliche' but he has given me peace in my life during stormy times. 

3. I am thankful for my son
My son is the light of my life and I am so thankful for him! He is beautiful, healthy and I love him so much! We had a difficult road to pregnancy with 3 previous miscarries and him trying to come too early but after 3 months of bed rest he's here!

4. I am thankful for my husband
Who is my bestie, supportive of my creative efforts and decision to become an entrepreneur officially, that is an awesome father to our son and wonderful provider.

5. I am thankful for my family and friendship
My mom and dad have instilled in me life long values that I pass on to my son, also my grandmothers, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends keep me young, hip and grounded.

6. I am thankful for a right mind, vision and health
Being young doesn't mean anything, I could be in several different bad situations right now. I know three people I grew up with that struggle with debilitating disorders and have to fight daily to breathe, see and do normal stuff you should be able to do in your 30's.  

7. I am thankful for a safe home
Being raised in south kansas city and then moving to east kansas city and then back to south kansas city, I am just thankful to live where I feel safe in my home. Many people don't have that luxury.

8. I am thankful for the courage to pursue my passion
I have been in love with writing for awhile and have been wanting to pursue my passion fully for along time. This fall I was handed a invitation to be able to do what I love full time and be good at it. Blessing do come in disguise sometime.

9. I am thankful for love
Some people never experience true love and I lucky to have found it.

10. I am thankful for peace
I can't stand drama! I am thankful for the drama-free life and being able to hand my troubles over to the Lord.

New Video from Gee Watts - Hallelujah ft. Master Rocs


If the black and white visualization of the last supper with Popeye's Chicken and black Jesus playing basketball don't grab your attention, maybe the lyrics will.

While watching rapper, Gee Watts video,"Hallelujah" ft. Master Rocs you maybe a bit offended imagery and entertained at the same time.

"Hallelujah,"a term of praise or thanks yes, but in this video has a shadier celebratory meaning. But with good reason. 

Praises for still being alive. As the catchy chorus chants, "Thank God them killas ain't shoot ya". We can't help but want to know, "Whoa, what's that about, what's the story behind those lyrics?"

A slow, melodic beat, coupled with a dragging bounce to it, Gee Watts gives us a taste of a track off his forthcoming album, "CaviART".

Gee Watts, is no stranger to the music scene in Kansas City, but well known other places. Last year he opened for west coast rapper Nipsey Hussle.

Unlike his lyrics, the cover art for his album is simplistic in taste, using only a yellow, neon illuminated cross on a black background. 

"CaviART" is set to be released February 2016. Fans are eager to hear what this album will bring to the table, since his last release in 2014.

His music is definitely music you can vibe to, another representative of great representative of the Kansas City's eclectic mix of recording artists.

3 Reasons Why Bae Isn't On Social Media


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"You're not on social media, why?"

Today it's so funny that if someone asks, "Are you on social media?" and the answer is "No". You're looked at weird, odd, not hip.

Bae, commonly referred to as my husband, isn't on Facebook, the 'Gram, Twitter or Snapchat. He was, but decided against it after getting hacked twice and random messages from ex's trying to reconnect.

Heck, if your Uncle, Granny and Momma are why aren't you?

What? You're really not a fan of having your life blasted all over the internet permanently? What's wrong with you?

Having random people that you don't know, or do, have access to you and your life events at any time isn't a good reason to be skittish or standoffish of social media?

All good reasons too!

And I know what you're think...No he's not on the run from the cops, shy or unattractive.

As he calls it, unless you have a "purpose" or you're a celebrity you're lame for being on Twitter. It's all fake.

He doesn't understand why a male (Neither do I, unless you are Usher, August Alsina or Trey Songz :) ) would get on social media and display themselves in underwear with the imprint of there male parts vividly showing (As rapper The Game did) or display themselves shirtless for "Likes", "Friends" or "Follows".

Also, had one of my ex's try to friend him on FB. He know's the guy and has talked to him before,but we were still not sure what that was about.

"Why would you want to be friends with the guy who did your wife scandalous for years? Beats me."


Here's Bae's Top 3 Reasons Of Why He's Not On Social Media:

1. Unneeded Drama, Thirsty Women...need I say more.
As I told you previously, unwanted people trying to get at you. Period. If you're in a relationship and your ex is constantly in your comments or DM's it's not a good look.There were a couple of incidents of former girlfriends or girls that he knew back in the day dropping messages in his inbox. 

Uh, big no no! Totally inappropriate to be messaging a married man. You know who you are!

2. Too Many Trolls, Weirdos.
There are so many people who like to attack what you say and argue. "Who has time for it", he said.

3. People Are Lame
Unless it's for business purposes that is, but for personal use only some people need it. He feels some type of way about guys and girls airing their dirty laundry on social media. All the whining and crying, blah blah blah it's just a mess.

All in all, as the saying goes "Everything ain't for Everybody".

MU Controversy: So Relatable and Yet Saddening


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I loved my College experience. Alot!

I love sharing stories of my experiences and feel like going away to College, helped me develop as a young woman. I forever cherish the good memories and the bad!

I didn't attend University Missouri at Columbia, and have only visited there once for a Football game. I do know a couple of friends who attended and some graduated.

I attend a college in Northwestern Missouri, Missouri Western State University in St. Joseph, Missouri. A small town, with only 77,147 population (According to Google in 2013) that was predominately white.

I never experienced anything exactly like the incidents like what happened on MU's campus at my school, MWSU and but speculate unfortunately that this isn't anything new. 

But at MWSU, what I did experience was caucasian students from Iowa, Nebraska and rural areas in Missouri all coming into a very diverse environment they had never been in before. Coming from schools and towns that were 99% white. And certainly not saying that EVERYONE who comes from a school or town like this is predijust.

Most of the black students Freshman year, were students who came from inner city high schools or like me, came from a very diverse schooling background with all colors of the rainbow.

Some were very accepting of people different that were not of their culture. Anxious to learn and become friends with those they had never seen that were a different race or had to relate to and even live with in the dorms. 

Unfortunately, like my roommate Sophomore year that was from Iowa, would never be accepting and didn't care to be. Although an alcoholic, she was more unfriendly and scared of me, than I was of her.

If you have leaders who don't do anything and are accepting of racism and hate incidents that occur on campus this is unacceptable!

I like the movie, "Dear White People", I could relate in a way. Now I didn't attend an Ivy League school, but there was a small group of black students on a mainly white campus, similar to how my situation was. I don't remember there being any incidents to the severity like what happened at MU or like on the movie though. 

Fact is, some people think that in 2015 this is okay, and it's not!

What happened or had been happening should not have been taken as a joke and I applaud the student's who protested. Especially, Mr. Jonathan Butler, who they named in a New York Times article, as a student that was fasting until the President resigned. 

It just shows the dire seriousness of the situation.

My father went to a neighboring University, actually MWSU's rival, NWMSU in Maryville, Missouri in the 60's and experienced what he described as "hatred like you wouldn't believe." 

It is so sad that the same thing that my Dad was experiencing as a College student in 1969, is still happening today!

This time the revolution was televised, yet again... and I loved every bit of it!

Right on!

Winning Team, Winning City


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I remember when I was younger, I'd go to the Royals games with my dad. 

It was exciting!

Getting to see the players and the beautiful Kauffman Stadium in person, the fireworks when a Home Run was made. What an experience!

I can't say that I was a Baseball fan from the start because like most that would be a complete lie! 

I never liked watching it on TV until this last year when we almost won...but it actually became exciting again.

The intense anticipation of that "W" sometimes was too much for me and I admit I had to turn the channel at times.

Sunday night, I was watching until the 6th inning and fell asleep only to wake up to our Kansas City Royals winning the World Series for the first time in 30 years. 

Last time they won the World Series in 1985, I was a 1 year old.

I feel like Kansas City, Missouri is known for many negative things. A lot of people talk about how they hate this city and they are going to move. Some do and some don't, but I know for a fact where you come from always has some impact on you, good or bad. 

Growing up here and still living here raising my family, there is a definite sense of pride and caring. When something big happens here you don't see the type of support and love with other cities! 

When KC comes together we do it in a huge way!

But it feels good to see our city do something so BIG finally, something so positive!

To be in World Series two years in a row, this was definitely our year!