Marriage: Should NOT Be A New Years Resolution

1.13.2009



I keep saying to myself…Wow, I’m getting married! I never really thought after a lot previous bad relationship and dating that I would A, get married ever and B, marry my crush from middle school/high school. I mean I’m not necessarily the most fashionable gal on the block, I have bad eye sight, I can be picky as hell and well lets face it, I’m not thick like a lot of men like. So had basically had given up and decided it would just be me, myself and my little yorkie puppy and I’d be happy. I thought I was a lost cause, but more on that later.

What brings me to this subject is, I saw a headline on either MSN or Yahoo, I can’t remember which, but it read New Years Resolution: “Get Married This Year”, and the blurb underneath that had something to do with find your soul mate this year. It stood out because #1, it sounded like a task on someone’s to-do list rather a hope of some sort and #2 the article seemed to be directed toward young women, were not talking about old maids here. So struck a nerve in me….

Even though some don’t think so, Marriage to me is serious, serious mater. It’s not like going grocery shopping or setting a goal to buy your first home. I think every little girl at some point in thinks about there dream wedding or getting married someday. But some young ladies I know see marriage as a destination and not a journey.

Please, please don’t get this twisted! Even when I wasn’t engaged and dating out there, it was still a thought of mine, but not foremost in my mind with every guy I dated, that I want to get married someday, let alone a goal. Ladies, being pushy and upfront like that can get you in some terrible trouble. Hec most guys my age run, even if you think the word marriage LOL.

I guess some young women are more driven to find “The One” out there and if you are just make sure he’s just that “THE ONE” and not just that one.

7 comments:

  1. Tell the truth girl! Marriage is serious business and btw Congratulations!

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  2. i agree... marriage is not something that can be set like that... yes, i do want to get married too, and i know that i want to be in a position to be ready for that, definetely cant say "getting married this year"... lol. and it is funny as hell, a shame, but funny soulja boy and arab got robbed.

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  3. congrats on the upcoming wedding, just dont be a bridezilla! but yes, marriage is serious, and people seem to act like it's just something to do...i know at least 8 ppl who got engaged over the holiday, but I am interested to see how many of them actually make it to the altar, as well as stay married for the long term.

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  4. I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU! Im getting married this year too and its crazy that the resolution would be that. Weird...

    Now a days, many people dont even look for love, they just settle for what they get comfortable with and what the can get used to. Its sad.

    I feel like I am so lucky to have really found true love and it makes me the happiest I could ever be. Nothing could compare. Marriage would just be a serious union for us, nothing to just throw around like its just a task.

    Congratulations on getting married! Its a wonderful beautiful thing!

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  5. Hey Daysha, Haven't been over here in a minute..Congradulations on your upcoming marriage..It is a beautiful thing if both people agree to work at it...You'll be just fine.

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  6. Thank you all on the congrats! I still say no one knows what tommorow may bring but God....yes the prediction of when you will get married is hard to pin point. It it mostly definite a beautiful thing to be in love for real!

    Ms. Ashley--I have been told by many of my female cousins that if I turn into bridezilla they will disown me LOL I am really trying to watch it though because wedding planning is stressful :P

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