Marriage: Should NOT Be A New Years Resolution
I keep saying to myself…Wow, I’m getting married! I never really thought after a lot previous bad relationship and dating that I would A, get married ever and B, marry my crush from middle school/high school. I mean I’m not necessarily the most fashionable gal on the block, I have bad eye sight, I can be picky as hell and well lets face it, I’m not thick like a lot of men like. So had basically had given up and decided it would just be me, myself and my little yorkie puppy and I’d be happy. I thought I was a lost cause, but more on that later.
What brings me to this subject is, I saw a headline on either MSN or Yahoo, I can’t remember which, but it read New Years Resolution: “Get Married This Year”, and the blurb underneath that had something to do with find your soul mate this year. It stood out because #1, it sounded like a task on someone’s to-do list rather a hope of some sort and #2 the article seemed to be directed toward young women, were not talking about old maids here. So struck a nerve in me….
Even though some don’t think so, Marriage to me is serious, serious mater. It’s not like going grocery shopping or setting a goal to buy your first home. I think every little girl at some point in thinks about there dream wedding or getting married someday. But some young ladies I know see marriage as a destination and not a journey.
Please, please don’t get this twisted! Even when I wasn’t engaged and dating out there, it was still a thought of mine, but not foremost in my mind with every guy I dated, that I want to get married someday, let alone a goal. Ladies, being pushy and upfront like that can get you in some terrible trouble. Hec most guys my age run, even if you think the word marriage LOL.
I guess some young women are more driven to find “The One” out there and if you are just make sure he’s just that “THE ONE” and not just that one.