Don't Believe The Hype!!!!

It was December 2005. I was 22. I had finals that very next week and then sh#@ hit the fan. Despite all of the good I had tried to do in the relationship, I still was being mistreated.

I mean for a while I thought I was a pretty, happy-go-lucky, nice girlfriend.

It all ended so quickly. Words were said and that was that. I was tired. And aparently he was tired of me, and had found a new girl to "play" with. At the time it hurt, but I was tired of being treated so badly. Tired of being lonely all the time and feeling like sh#@.

Most of the gory details are a bit fuzzy now. To feel like no other guy would ever want to date you again after a break up of almost 4 1/2 years with one guy, is not a good place to be in.

I was almost like a domestic violence victim, thinking for a while that it was somehow all my fault.

After a long-term relationship break up a girl can feel like their whole world has crumbled underneath them.

I was left with no confidence because of lies I had been fed. "You're so skinny, why are you so skinny? Is something wrong with you? You're just bony?", he once said to me.

I mean who says something like that to the one that they supposedly love. Or my favorite, "You're just too needy?" WTF?
How am I needy? Aren't you supposed to want to spend time with your girl?

All of these cruel comments I started taking to heart, I started questioning myself, "Is there really something wrong with me?"

I started believing for some reason that no other guy would be interested in me because of my weight. And maybe I had wanted to spend to much time with him, maybe I was a little needy.

All of these things messed with me for some months until a friend finally helped knock some sense into me.

Ladies, don't let a guy take away your self confidence. DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE.

"If you can't learn to love 'em you should leave 'em"-Tupac

More on regaining yourself confidence next week....Stay tuned.


  1. yes..don't believe the hype. It is so easy to be blind when in love...I'm too being treated badly in a relationship and felt depressed all the time.. well, not anymore. Enough is enough.

  2. Exactly! Glad to hear you realize enough is enough. Thanks for the comment Shareena!

  3. I'm not gonna lie, that ex-bf of yours is a douche!

  4. Hey Maureen,

    LOL! Yes, I thought he was too!