Reciprocity : What Happens When You Don't Recieve Back, What You Put Into The Relationship?
Above are the song and the lyrics from one on my favorite artists, Lauryn Hill.
The line that sticks out the most for me in this song is, "Tell me who I have to be, to get some reciprocity"
You've probably heard the phrase before, "You get out of it, what you put in." However, for some reason, in relationships, it doesn't always work that way.
In the book, "Eat, Pray, Love", a autobiographical journey of spirituality and life by author Elizabeth Gilbert says,
"If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else."
— Elizabeth Gilbert
Receiving back what you put into a relationship is so important.
In relationships, ladies we put out a lot more than what we get back. We are by nature nuturing beings. In relationships with our significant others we look to get back what can be that needed emotional support, monetary support or just supporting our dreams.
Like the quote above says, I will give you basically my everything, my all, until I get exhausted.
Ladies, what happens when you get exhausted? Do you do like the quote above from Elizabeth Gilbert says and become infatuated with someone else who can provide you with that support or reciprocation needed?
Do you just keep loving that person knowing that they'll never be able to provide you with the all that you need?
Thoughts, Opinions, COMMENTS?
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