Should You Say Something?
I’ve never had many girlfriends, the one’s I do have, I cherish those friendships. Friendships are so special and at my age they aren’t very easy to come by. I love my friends and wish the best for them. When I feel they’re doing something that may harm them emotionally or physically I say something. I mean no one wants to see their friend hurt, right?
Let me tell you a story about my friend, who I’ve known for almost ten years. For the sake of this article let’s call her Amber.
My friend Amber and I have known each other since freshman year of college. We’ve both shared our ups and down with guys, and were always open to discussing issues dealing with dating and relationships.
One day we met for lunch and she was catching me up on what was going on in her life and her new boo she was seeing. She had told me a little bit about this guy when we had spoken on the phone and he sounded really great. They had been dating for about a three months; he was a successful independent business owner and was very well off. He lived in a very nice house, drove a nice car and was about 10 years older than her.
He sounded coo to me, even though he was a bit older than her and definitely sounded more experienced. I personally didn’t like older men, but they say age ain’t nothing but a number, so I didn’t really pay it any mind. When we got into the conversation further she started telling me more details and that the man wasn’t legally divorced from his wife, but they were supposedly separated.
Also that he really hadn’t been taking her out on dates, but he’s been doing the whole wine and dine thing at her house because he says that, “I don’t really like to go out to eat.”
She went on about how He had 3 kids and his relationship with his first wife didn’t really work out.
“When did he tell you this” I asked. She replied about a week ago. The more Amber was going into the story the more it sounded like this guy was trying to hide stuff.
I mean, who dates someone and they don’t want you to know where they live. He says they don’t go out really because doesn’t have the time, and he only see’s you after 8pm.
Needless to say my friend got very annoyed and then preceded to tell me it was none of my business what she was doing and that she knew what she was getting into. And to stop judging her.We then got into a heated conversation about the whole deceitfulness of men and I told her I just cared about her and her well-being and I wasn't trying to judge her, just help.
Amber did end up apologizing in the end after she came to her sense and ended it, but I then wondered, should I have said anything in the first place?
If you have a good friend, you love them and you care about them. But sometime they can think that you’re trying to tell them how to live their life or interfere.
Do you say something if a friend does something you think is morally wrong?
Or do you not say something and risk your friend coming back to you hurt or worse?