"Tuesday Topic": 5 Lessons My First Love Taught Me
Lord knows I learned a lot of things from this particular guy, some good and some bad. I just saw the Beyoncé' video, today and this got me to thinking.
So today I'm going to talk about only a few of the lessons I learned while dating this guy off and on from the time I was 15 until I was about 21. Hope you ladies enjoy and as always COMMENT, so we can get a discussion going.
1) It doesn't matter how pretty you are, if he doesn't want you, he just doesn't want you
Halle Berry knows it, but I didn't. Being the naive teenager/early 20 year old I was I some how thought that if I was cute enough, pretty enough, bad enough my boyfriend would only see me and only want me because I was beautiful (stupid I know, right?)
2) If he doesn't like your size/shape, he probably never will
For some reason I wasn't blessed with big titties, a big booty or thick thighs. I have faced the fact that I will never be voluptuous like say a video vixen. I've always been a petite young lady. At 98lbs and 20 years old my boyfriend apparently didn't like that I was so skinny and often teased me about not being his ideal weight. Like there was anything I could do about it.
3) People change, and it's not always for the good
In my mind he was always going to be the same loving boy I met in 10th grade. But then we went to college, hard times came, he started drinking and smoking excessively and then he went away to a different school and joined a frat. That person I saw almost on a daily basis wasn't there anymore, he was hanging with a different crowd, I was going one direction and he another.
4) Long distance relationships usually don't work... especially in college
It's pretty much a waste of time, they're not faithful and how can you expect them to be? Temptation is EVERYWHERE!
5) Love is blind, period
Often times when you want something to work really bad, you overlook things that you wouldn't ordinarily.