My earliest recollection was probably somewhere around my kindergarten years. I remember it very clearly, the little girl in a dress and little leggings outfit that looked just like the turquoise and white one I was wearing with hearts on it. She had red hair and freckles and her name was Merdith. “What’s your name?”, she asked me. swiveling her shoulders shyly back and forth. “Nicole”, I answered. “My name’s Meridith, wanna go play?”
It was that simple, we were friends from then on until I transferred to a different school that is.
So many things happen in our lives after college. We get married, have kids, more to different cities and work so much that it doesn’t even hardly allow for a social life. I found that the few male friends (and I mean strictly platonic male friends) I did have before marriage totally disappeared when they found out I was engaged. <------This is definitely a blog post topic for another day.
I’ve always been a fairly shy and quiet person. I am way more outgoing than I was in high school though. College some how brought out a more outspoken person, I guess since I didn’t have anyone to speak up for me any more and I was basically on my own. But even before then some how I attracted people to me. I guess the where curious about the quiet girl, maybe I looked interesting. I don’t know but I sure wasn’t ever the first person to introduce myself in group setting or in class.
I remember when I was about to graduate from high school and my parents were driving me and my other two home girls some where to eat, and she told us to enjoy each other now. The friends we have now will not be the friends we have in 10 years. We all looked at each other like, “what in the heck is she talking about, we’ll still be friends!” Needless to say my mom was right. One out of two of that crew I talk to on a regular basis. The other, I we fell out of contact about 5 years ago.
Being that I’m in my late 20’s, I’m finding it harder and harder to make friends, let alone maintain the friendships. It’s something I know I have to work on though. Sure, there’s Facebook and other social apps but what about actually talking to someone in person. Sometimes I wonder do people even talk on the phone anymore? I’m not a big fan of talking on the phone (text messaging is a bad habit for me, I even talk to my mom and dad this way instead of phone convo) I don’t know about you but I still enjoy a good phone convo from time to time. Anyways….
I guess the problem with making friends when you’re older is that adults have all these hang ups. Especially women. I don’t like her hair or ugghhh why is she dressed like that? I guess when we were kids it was more about who’s kickball team you were gonna be on, or who was going to turn the ropes today for double dutch or who’s house you were going over after school.
I can say that making friends with out being in school is a lot harder. You have your co-workers at work, your brothers and sisters in Christ at church, and any other groups you may be in but some people look at you crazy when you’re friendly, or even stop to say, “Hi, how are you doing today?”
I’m definitely going to work on keeping in touch with the wonderful friends I have. Sounds cliché’ but it’s soooo true! The older you get, the fewer the true, true friends you have. Sounds cliché’ but it’s soooo true!