Perfect Doesn't Exist For This Struggling New Mom

  1. per·fect

    1. having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.
    2. absolute; complete (used for emphasis).
    3. (of a number) equal to the sum of its positive divisors, e.g., the number 6, whose divisors (1, 2, 3) also add up to 6.
    4. (of a tense) denoting a completed action or a state or habitual action that began in the past. The perfect tense is formed in English with have or has and the past participle, as in they have eaten and they have been eating (since dawn) ( present perfect ), they had eaten ( past perfect ), and they will have eaten ( future perfect ).
    5. (of a flower) having both stamens and carpels present and functional.
    1. make (something) completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible.

    When I googled the definition of the word perfect, this is what came up above. 

    I've been striving for something like "perfection" lately.

    Recently as a fairly new mom...(I have a 9 month old son), I have been trying to be the "perfect" mom. In my mind this is always being organized, prepared, having your house look immaculate at all times, clothes washed folded and hung, dinner on the table every night and keeping yourself looking something like a model out of a magazine.

    Guess what...it aint happenin' at my house!

    Last month my efforts for what I thought was near "perfection" lead me to be sick for almost a week (and ladies and gentleman, I ran out of sick time at work months ago). I was so ran down I didn't even see it coming. 

    As a wife and a mom, now I was trying to make sure everything is awesome on a daily basis and you know what, it's just not physically possible for me.

    I was making sure we had cooked dinner everynight, dishes were washed, house was cleaned, everything was ready for the next morning ...not to mention sometimes my son likes to stay up sometime past mommy and daddy's bedtime...and then wake up again around 2am to eat again.

    It's almost impossible...working a 40 hour work week and after getting home from picking up the baby...

    All I can say is Jesus is truly my help because I can't do it on my own!

    Doing the best that is possible is all that is required, God just asked that we do our best. I just need to remember that.

    -Nicole Alicia


  1. Don't get discouraged, mama! Sounds like you're doing an AWESOME job! As long as you and your family are happy and healthy, that's all that matters.