9.14.2015

5 worries about becoming a Second/Third time Mom


I grew up an only child. It wasn't intentional according to my mom and pops. It just ended up that way.
To some being an "only child" means spoiled, to others this means lonely.
I was neither.

I had a very difficult time getting pregnant with my son and after having 3 miscarriages, I wasn't so sure that I would ever be able to carry a child.
Even though I had a difficult pregnancy with my son, God showed me so much during those 8 months and I am so thankful for my beautiful baby boy!
Recently, my husband and I have talked about adding to our family, so my son isn't an only child. My husband and doctor agree that only children are weirdoes. I do concur that I have my certain strange idiosyncrasies that only people who have no siblings would understand.
I have a couple of fears however going into this next stage of motherhood, especially since my son is currently 19 months.

Adding one more child to our household, what will it mean? We have to get through those tough nights and mornings again of the newborn stage. A stage of exhaustion of which is a tiny blip in my memory due to lack of sleep.
My friend is about to have her third child, currently she has a 7 year old and a 2 year old. I asked her how she would do it, she looked at me flustered and laughed saying, "I really don’t know".

However, for some crazy reason we are willing to try again two, if not more times. Here's what's just a little bit of what's on my worry list:

1. Childbirth, after birth pain, epidurals…do I really want to do this again?

2. Will I be able to manage more laundry, more mess, functioning on minimal amounts of sleep? 

3. I will have to be on bed rest again in the hospital for 3 ½ months

4. Will I be twice as tired as I am now? 

5.  My house will never look the same will it? 

But my great-grandmother had 12 kids, on a farm and lived through stuff like the Great Depression, no dishwasher, no washing machine. Then I think to myself, this should be a piece of cake and why am I even worried!

Do any of the Moms out there with multiple kids or looking to make an addition to your fam have an fears about having another baby? Comment below! Let's get a discussion going.


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  1. I feel like I could have written this post myself. I grew up an only child. After having our daughter, my husband and I seriously considered being one and done, but I remembered always wanting a sibling growing up so we decided to try for one more. Now four months pregnant, I think about space, time, finances. How can I keep up with two when I can barely keep up with the one I have? I'm also dreading childbirth and that first year of being sleep deprived, over touched, under appreciated and just plain crazy. But like your grandmother, mine had 14 and was able to raise them all to be happy, healthy, functioning citizens of society. I just keep in mind people do this all the time. So I'm confident we'll make it work. I'm not sure how, but we will.

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    1. First of all let me give you a big congrats! I am so glad that I was able to relate mom to mom on this topic. I have a toddler and the thought of being pregnant and potty training isn't what I exactly call a fun time, but I figure hey I gotta get through it right?! I don't know what's worse with a new one the afterbirth pain or the sleep deprivation, you're right on that. I forgot how much he woke up in the middle of the night his first year!

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